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Christmas Begone


Christmas--not always happy and bright

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ExperiencingLiphe
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Ten years ago my brother and I found a family friend dead on Christmas. It ruined Christmas for a long time for me. I don't know what happened or changed but suddenly I woke up one morning and I love it again. The holidays can be just be a lot. We do a lot of traveling and staying at each other parents' houses and it's just a lot. Last week I would find myself staying at the in laws, coming home, going to work, baking something to take the the next place, work the next day, coming home, packing, and leaving again for another couple days only to start it all over again. I was glad to come home on Sunday and know it was finally over for another year. Hang in there friend


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reply by the author on 04-Jan-2017
    Thanks for the stars. I would have a total nervous breakdown with your holiday schedule. Happy New Year.

reply by ExperiencingLiphe on 04-Jan-2017
    It can definitely be a lot. I'm glad it's over :)
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This meets the contest requirements beautifully. Being flawlessly constructed, the reader is allowed to completely immerse themselves in the story without any distractions. As I read, I could not help but think about all of the folks out there that have memories much like yours and how the despair and loneliness of the holiday season escalates the number of suicides each year. For me, this one paragraph said it all, not just about Christmas, but how any childhood trauma can impact and entire life:

"There's a lot of mileage between the heart and the head. What one deals with intellectually does not necessarily connect emotionally. Of course, as time went by, I came to terms with an eighty-seven-year-old man's death. In fact, his death was not the focus of my despair. It came down to me demanding something for myself that came with a cost to another person."

I wish you all the best in the judging and thank you very much for sharing it.


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reply by the author on 04-Jan-2017
    Yes, we can deal with the issues and overcome any preoccupation with what we can't change, but triggers can still awaken emotion responses, and those ;ast a lifetime. Thank you very much for the stars.
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I enjoyed reading this story from beginning to end. It is unique from my own viewpoint because I came from a different setting. But I saw how the story was built and I admire the way it was written. Overall, to me, it was one kind that not only revealed the character of the writer but had placed me in a situation admiring from a distance characteristics that are impressive and admirable. Thanks for sharing Ingrid.


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reply by the author on 04-Jan-2017
    Thank you so very much for the stars, Happy New Year. I hope your dream for 2017 is closer.
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A very open and honest look at how the holidays can cause undue sadness and stress. The last two years, I have spent holidays alone with my beagle, writing. It beats being with my family--dysfunctional doesn't even begin to describe them. Get rested up and thanks for sharing this. Often people are afraid to share their true feelings about such things. Take care, my friend~Debbie


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reply by the author on 04-Jan-2017
    Thank you for the stars. Yes, people continue to be ashamed of things that were not their fault, but it hekps others to wake up and notice things when they don't seem right. I appreciate the read and review--especially the stars.
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Ingrid, this is a strong, heartrending story about your traumatic Christmases, especially the one in which your grandfather died and your mother said to you, "Maybe now you'll learn you can't have your way. Your temper tantrum cost all of us Christmas." The guilt you felt from that, as well as from your sexual abuse, devastated you, as you eloquently but painfully explain why "At the core of my spirit remains the loss of innocence and dreams."

You shared a powerful story about "many strong people who become vulnerable at this time of year." Yes, suicides do increase and the stresses of faking Christmas are lethal.

One result of this rough childhood is how you react today, "Should I see a parent abuse a child, I WILL get involved, and my mind-set traces back directly to my childhood Christmases."

I only found one spag: "sacrilegious" as one word and not "sac religious" as two.

Thank you for sharing. I am glad Christmas is over. I wish you contest success.


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reply by the author on 04-Jan-2017
    Thanks for the alert and the review. We need to get rid of shame and guilt when circumstances are such that nothing can change. I am a better mother and stronger--could have used less of that--because of my past.
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Yours is a tragic story. I read much of the background before, in your 60s memoir, but it moves me anew now. It took courage, I know, to dredge it all up again. You've come out this side of it a stronger person. It shows in your writing.

Just a few things to point out:

Europeans open gifts and enjoy their big family dinner on Christmas Eve. [I'm guessing that, with this as an introductory sentence to a paragraph about your elderly grandparents, that they were Europeans. Probably wouldn't hurt to include that fact.]

but in my ten short years, it was oneI treasured.
[spacing error.]

/everything was my fault,[I don't know what the forward slash is for.]




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reply by the author on 03-Jan-2017
    Yes, you've travelled this path with me before. Its been years since I brought this up or wrote about it, primarily because my status as a writer is no rooted in being a martyr. I may have needed a way to express and deal with this shit once upon a time, but I can honestly say--with pride--I am a writer, /this is a dip, a naked reinforcement of the strip tease act we writers need to face. No pretentions, no apologies--just write it out. I have no intention of exploiting this or retreating to victim status. A passing reality, a hard time of year. I answered the how, what, what, where and when. Mot bad, huh? Thanks for the stars.

reply by Jay Squires on 04-Jan-2017
    Being invited on a journey such as this, Ingrid, demanded a six. I thank you for the companionship.
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Wow! What a sad story. You wrote about it real well. Some things I can relate to and feel for you or with you. It's too bad Christmas was the time this all happened. I'm glad that you are enjoying your own family though. I think commercialism has ruined the true meaning of the season. Anyhow, you did a fantastic job writing this. So sorry you had to endure all these wrongs. Big hugs! Drew xx


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    I'll take that hug! In fact, I've taught people how to hug and even say I love you. Abuse is not an excuse to continue the lesson, but it's been hard to stay grounded and not expect everyone to suffer along with my regrets. It's what we all need to do, no matter how happy/sad out past may be. Thanks for the read and review.
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I am one too, but you have the gift of being able to put it into words. I have never told anyone this, but I cannot remember the last time I was able to cry. I have felt sadness, loneliness but tears never come. I learned to love my mother but I never cried when she died. This is superbly written and filled with personal truths you did not have to share with us, but I am so glad you did. I hope you keep writing so I can continue to be impressed and amazed at your gift.


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reply by the author on 03-Jan-2017
    We know how this shit has formed us. People call us survivors, and usually, I don't think about it at all. But hot damn, the season of universal love--sucks. Thanks for the stars. I have to rethink my writing. ingrid
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Thanks for giving voice to the holiday feelings that so many of us share...in different ways, Christmas is difficult for families....too many expectations and too many forced dysfunctional families. You touched me with so many lines: there's a lot of mileage between the heart and the head being one, but the guilt that your mom laid on you made me scream....Blessings to a New Year....the 'dreaded' Christmas season isn't for another 8? 9? 10? months.


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    I don't dwell in this crap, but Christmas does evoke the emotions. Thanks for the stars.
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I've heard a lot of your stories, and felt your work, but this is the first time I've heard this side of your story.
I know it had to be hard to write, and there's nothing I can say to change your experiences.
I had to laugh when you said you did such a good job with Christmas that your children think it's forever your job to make it all work. I kind of discovered this myself this Christmas. I don't think it was selfish, but I do wish they would step up to the plate and make my Christmas happy just because...

Great job.
Rhonda


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reply by the author on 03-Jan-2017
    Years ago I wrote a lot about my formative years. There is no doubt there is a lifetime legacy to abuse, but at some point, I didn't want to use writing as an excuse to beating a dead horse. Everyone has dies, and I fight the haunting from graves. Thanks for reading.
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