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Grieving Hearts Heal 2


Part 2 - Telling Your Story

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Thank you, Jan, for continuing to bless us with wise counsel and wise thoughts. So many people need to hear that it is okay and normal to go through their own brand of grieving. Well done.

Melissa


 Comment Written 27-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 27-Mar-2019
    Hi Melissa,

    Nice to see you again, my friend. Thanks for stopping by for a read. I'm glad to know you enjoyed this release and I very much appreciate your kind comments and great rating. Jan :-)
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Another excellent offering with informative, helpful points to consider. I think being able to listen without judging is massive helpful to anyone with a problem.


 Comment Written 26-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 26-Mar-2019
    Hi Judy,

    Thank you so much for this terrific review and star-studded rating, my friend. I am humbly honored to know that you found this information to be helpful and worthy of such high distinction. Yes, it is--really--statistically the most important factor clients report as being the number one dynamic to a successful client-therapist relationship and progress in therapy: Simply to listen non-judgmentally. And this is out of a lot of traits such as sex, gender identification, racial considerations, ethnic heritage, theoretical orientation (what "type" of talk therapy is used), age, marital status, religious affiliation...the list goes on and on. This is quite a sad testament to the state of our society, in my opinion, but it is what it is. Thanks again, my friend. Jan
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Beautiful and so wonderful... covers all of the emotions that seem to bombard either immediately or down the road. But, and I hope this doesn't make me weird or inhuman (as I've been called), what happens if you're just very logical and very religious and the whole grief thing just doesn't hit as traumatically as folks say it SHOULD? Guess it's a stupid question.... Regardless, I do appreciate this being out there for folks...so many that I know, younger rather than older, seem to struggle. ;) ;) Thank you for sharing -- know I said it already, but great idea!! :) ;)


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 26-Mar-2019
    Hi Yvette,

    Thank you so much for your gracious review and generous rating. I appreciate your support. I tell people there are no "shoulds" with regard to grieving or feeling emotions. I am considering writing a brief essay on this aspect, as so many clients asked me "What am I supposed to be feeling? I don't know what I should be feeling!" Thanks again, my friend. Jan
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Well done. I think "listening without judging what the client says" is so important. It's something your family and friends can't do well. It's easier to talk to a stranger, preferably a professional like you, who will not react one way or the other. Once you get it all out, it becomes easier to deal with, but some people have a hard time reliving the tragedy. I suppose you have ways to draw them out.


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 26-Mar-2019
    Hi Phyllis,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to read and review this release. I'm glad you found this to be potentially helpful information for those whose hearts are aching with grief. Yes, it can be difficult emotionally to relive a tragedy for sure. Well, I just let people talk, as they tend to address issues of most concern. That way, nothing feels forced. And, yes, it is a sad testament to our society, in my opinion, that the one factor, as statistically reported by clients, that is most important (out of a very long list of things like religious affiliation, sexual orientation, age, race, etc.) is just that the therapist be non-judgmental. Thanks so much again, my friend. Jan
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Another beautiful story, dear woman, full of compassion, empathy, wisdom and hope. Solace for the hurting and grieving.
God bless you always,
Gale


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 26-Mar-2019
    Hi Gale,

    Thanks for taking the time to read and review this release. I really appreciate your gracious comments and star-studded sixer. I am humbly honored that you found this work to be helpful information and worthy of such high distinction. Jan
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My husband died in a car crash and it took a very long time to stop talking to him but sharing with him has never stopped.
So, it is perfectly normal to reach for the phone to call your departed loved one, even when you consciously realize they can no longer be reached by phone. Heck, my dad passed away in October, ten years ago.


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 25-Mar-2019
    Hi Art,

    My dad passed 10 years ago last October as well. I think of him almost every day, too. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's passing in an accident. I can only begin to imagine how horrible that must have been for you. Personally, I think our loved ones stay with us, but we just can't see them with our physical eyes, so it's perfectly natural to feel him close and share things. Thank you, my friend, for this wonderful review and rating. Much appreciated! Jan :-)
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This is a great followup of your previous post. A lot more helpful information. I especially liked the part about emotions not being right or wrong. I think a lot of times people feel bad when their faced with anger, resentment towards the deceased when it's actually just part of the process. My grandma and use to watch price as right, guessing answers over the phone. I can't tell you how many times I started to call her after her demise. I can still hear her say Oh Misty, that can't be right lol.


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 25-Mar-2019
    Hi Misty,

    Awwwww, that is so sweet about your grandma. Yes, parts of our loved ones live on in our hearts, souls, and minds for sure! And, personally, I believe they are with us, but we are unable to see them with our physical eyes. In my experience, most folks feel guilty anytime they feel anger or any other perceived negative emotion. But those are natural responses and often justified, it's just a matter of learning to channel that emotional energy into a positive outlet that matters. Thanks again, my friend. Jan :-)
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Thanks for this great advice. It's true: I find it very helpful to talk to others about what happened, but then I feel guilty for sharing for some reason.
So are you a therapist then? Lovely job.


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 25-Mar-2019
    Hi Maria,

    Thanks very much for your great review and rating. Yes, I was a therapist for many years. I am glad to know you find comfort in talking through things. Maybe you feel guilty as if you've betrayed a trust or something? Thanks again, my friend. Jan
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I gave this 6 because it is a continuation of another piece you wrote, and also have some very valid Sage advice and history from real therapy what you have done. That makes it come across as very genuine and that makes it invaluable to mankind as a whole as someone who has experienced these things, charted them in their experience and giving some great Sound Advice. Keep writing these things!


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 25-Mar-2019
    Hi Badger,

    Thank you so much for yet another terrific review and star-studded sixer! I am honored to know you found this information to be helpful, and plan to keep writing these little essays. Thank you again, my friend. Jan :-)

reply by Badger_29 on 27-Mar-2019
    Thanks for sharing, great platform to go in many directions with. I do believe I also believe that we have just scratched the surface of the iceberg that represents the purpose for our existence
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Now the dead are "viewed" for a couple of rigidly scheduled hours. There is no wake wherein the bereaved can start the steps of recovery among assembled friends...even a service is not mandatory now...progress is wonderful...excellent, informative post...


 Comment Written 25-Mar-2019



reply by the author on 25-Mar-2019
    Hi Red,

    I agree with you in that it takes time for the shock of death to begin to heal and that longer viewings certainly help to bring closure to that initial period of mourning. This briefness just further complicates the healing process, in my opinion. Thanks so much for your kind review and rating. I appreciate your support. Jan
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